Adventures in Dating: Single & 40

Thursday, April 30, 2015

So here I am, newly 40 and now single again.  My last relationship ended on good terms - thank goodness. But it was definitely a loss.  If I think back to my 20's, did I ever imagine that at this point in my life, that I would be looking to date?  Hell no... ha ha.  But that's my reality now.

So maybe your wondering why am I talking about dating on a natural hair blog??   Well because there are so many women out there that are single later in life, and having to deal with starting over. That it's worth talking about. Dating is exciting, exhausting, painful, stressful and fun all at the same time.  And how is this possible?? Well it's kind of like being on a roller coaster. There are a lot of emotional ups and downs.  But I think with dating - all the disappointments you may experience make it that more special when you actually do find the guy that is the perfect match for you.

I have been single for 7 months... but it feels like it has been forever.  Dating has been a challenge.  Especially for someone like myself that is not to good with picking up clues when it comes to flirting. I can be a bit shy and don't always catch the clues that guys may give me that they want to talk or are interested.  So unless someone actually comes up to me and says hello - I may never connect with that person. And I don't exactly have the most exciting social life.  Not really into bars or clubs. So what is a girl to do? 

Well fortunately and unfortunately there is internet dating. I have not had a very good experience so far... ha ha.  Lots of bad communication, guys that want booty calls, catfishing, etc...  I also think
when people are trying to match through the internet, there is so much that is missing. It's very impersonal, you can't feel the vibe of the person, see their facial expressions, etc.  Although I am still on a couple of dating sites - I think I need to broaden my options for meeting people.  So tomorrow is my first meetup singles group get together.  Something that is laid back, not to much pressure. Just to get out and have some fun. I hope I don't sound lame lol.  But hey, I am a single mom with my own business and limited time.  So if I need to go to a meetup event for singles, to start meeting new people, that's what I am going to do.  

I look forward to writing more about my dating adventures (as well as beauty and hair topics).  And I would love to hear from all of you natural beauties about your dating experiences.  Whether you are single, in a new relationship, in a long term relationship or married - if you have a stories to share, email me at


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